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My Husband Does Not Get An Award For Loving Me Despite My Fat

I am fat. According to the way the world defines it, I am a fat person. My husband is thin. He ran 16 miles last week. He never has to worry about his pants fitting or people sizing him up when he...

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9 Ways To Stop The Vicious Cycle Of Negative Thinking

Regret, judgment, blame, hopelessness – here’s how to kick negative thoughts to the curb. Sometimes it creeps in when things are going well and you’re feeling good about life. Don’t get too...

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What Happened When I Put Myself In Time-Out For My Bad Behavior

I’d had enough of my own temper tantrums. Ah, preconceived notions. Advice sought from websites and ignored emotions welling in the heart. Intuition shut down and confusion reigning rampart behind...

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What Does It Mean If I End Up Being Alone For The Rest Of My Life?

I always thought being married would make me happy. It didn’t. Now what? Ever since I was little, I’ve dreamed about being married. Maybe it’s because my mom leaned too much on me after her divorce,...

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The Cost Of Survival: A Diary Of Breast Cancer, Six Years On

It’s Breast Cancer Awareness Month. A time when I ask myself the haunting question: is my cancer back? The bright sun and heat call me off the beach in the middle of the day. My new normal does not...

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14 Kind Things You Can Do Every Day For Good Karma

As Ellen says, “be kind to one another”. I’ve always believed in Karma. ‘Be kind and you’ll be rewarded with kindness‘ is the simple motto I live by. After all, the world would truly be a better place...

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Growing Up With Mental Illness, But Without The Stigma

I wasn’t raised to hide mental illness, even during times of crisis. “What I always want you to think about is this: Dad has a disease. If he had cancer, or diabetes, everyone would want to help. Why...

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I Hated My Own Body So Much It Almost Killed Me

My sister sent me an email. The subject read, ‘I love you. Are you listening?’ For far too long I abused my beautiful body. I talked down to her. I lied to her. I fought with her. I created good and...

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7 Magical Ways You Can Use Witchcraft To Improve Your Life

Witchcraft isn’t all about cauldrons, pointy hats and eye of newt. I’m a pretty average gal. Maybe except for the fact I have jet black hair, wear a lot of dark clothing (okay, I own nothing of color...

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19 Ways You Know You’re A True Scorpio

We like it when people are afraid of us. They should be afraid. If your birthday falls between October 23 and November 21, you’ve probably had this experience: you tell someone your astrological sign,...

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Feel Your Feelings And Don’t Let Anyone Tell You Otherwise

Because your feelings are not choices.  It’s the overly cheerful Facebook comment. Your family telling you to lighten up, feel better, look at the bright side of things. Maybe it’s that one friend who...

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7 Signs Your Friend Is A Fake Friend

Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice… Some friendships are so strong, they last through middle school awkwardness, cross-country college acceptance, marriages and kids. Others barely survive happy...

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To My 13-Year-Old Self: I’m Sorry No One Taught You About Your Period

Having a vagina shouldn’t be painful. Hi, there. Do you want a hug? Because you look like you could use a hug. Actually, let me get your cat. He can give better hugs than me. I’m so sorry no one told...

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6 Things That Happened When I Stopped Drinking And Started Meditating

When I started craving a beer in the afternoon, I knew something had to change. My name is Elizabeth, and I’m not an alcoholic. At least, I don’t think I am. But I don’t drink anymore. That’s because...

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I Wish I Had A Mother

I’m 43-years-old, and I want my mother. I’m not sick. There is no crisis. I just want my mother. Well, not so much my mother. Just a mother. Any mother. I want someone to call when things are terrible...

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11 Things People With Anxiety Need You To Know

This isn’t a choice. When I had my first panic attack, I was convinced I was having a heart attack. An ambulance ride and six hours in the Emergency Department later, I was informed the crushing...

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Why You Need To Throw Out All Your Stuff And Start Over

Does less stuff really equal more happiness? I’m turning this story in late because I’ve been packing and hauling boxes for days, moving from a too-big apartment to two rooms in a house just a few...

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6 Weird Grief Things No One Tells You To Expect After A Parent Dies

“Grief was like a seizure that shook me like a storm” – author Patricia Cornwell. When my mom began treatment for end-stage liver cancer, I knew the odds of her survival weren’t good. As she grew...

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The Other Before And After: Life With An Eating Disorder

Content notice: eating disorder I’ve never been a fan of eating disorder recovery Before-and-After photos. I don’t find it healthy or helpful to compare and appraise the shapes and sizes of bodies in...

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The Moment I Realized I Was Good Enough

It’s my quirks and habits which make me who I am.  I was at a small house party with my best friend recently when he got far too drunk, far too quickly. Soon enough, he was slumped over on the ground,...

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