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23 Insanely Hilarious Gift Ideas That Are Actually Genius

What do you get the person who already has everything? Got a friend who is literally the WORST to buy for? Dying to get something off your chest, but can’t find the words? You’ve come to the right...

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8 Ways To Be More Self-Sufficient And Sustainable At Home

Being sustainable is a trend we should all embrace because it’s essential for the planet.  I have long fantasized about living off the grid and being fully self-sufficient. You know, a log cabin in the...

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19 Ways You Know You’re A True Scorpio

We like it when people are afraid of us. They should be afraid. If your birthday falls between October 23 and November 21, you’ve probably had this experience: you tell someone your astrological sign,...

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How To Spot If You’re Bad At Listening (And Be Better At It)

Listening is one of the most overlooked aspects of effective communication.  You’ve been planning to catch up with your bestie for weeks. But between late nights at work and weekends running from...

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Toxic Positivity: Demanding ‘Good Vibes’ Is Inspiring Precisely No One

Demanding good vibes from all people at all times is doing more harm than good… If one more Instagram influencer, rolling around half-naked on a beach in the Maldives, yells that I must exude “Good...

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The Real Reason Women Don’t Leave Abusive Relationships

Being scared to leave isn’t the whole story. Some of the best times of my life happened during the years I spent in an abusive relationship. My then-boyfriend could be the sweetest, funniest guy you...

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Stop Telling Me ‘Lesbians Don’t Scissor’ (And Other Things Straight People...

          “Real lesbians don’t wear strap-ons.” “It’s so funny that people think LESBIANS, like actually scissor. People are so dumb it blows my mind,” Beatrix*, a freckle-faced, top-knot-sporting, 22...

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What It’s Like To Survive A Suicide Attempt

As written by someone who’s grateful she did. On January 3, I tried to take my life. I swallowed 60 of the antidepressants I had stopped taking months before and swallowed them all at one time. Just to...

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A Woman’s Guide To Discovering Body Positivity & How To Be Confident

Love your thighs! You may not know this, but in April it was “Love Your Thighs” day. I had never actually heard of this day before, but I’ll be honest; I needed this day when I was younger. At some...

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What The Mother Of A School Shooting Victim Taught Me About Parenthood

Content Notice: the death of a child.  While planning to have a child of my own, I spent hundreds of hours listening to accounts of parents who had lost theirs to school shootings. The horror of their...

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I Asked A Psychic For The 3 Things Everyone Can Learn About Their Palm

“We can tell a lot about a person’s personality, their strengths, their weaknesses from their palm…” I once had a psychic tell me with intense gravitas and conviction that your palms do not lie. And...

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The Myth of Being Over Depression

You only ever really temporarily come up for air before being pulled back under. “I used to have depression, but I’m over it now.” This is what I’d say when talking to my friends about depression or...

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To The Girl Who Feels Like A Second Choice

To the girl who feels like a second choice, You feel like you are just one of someone’s many options. Yet despite this feeling, you still stick around and wait. You hope and pray that you’ll be...

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9 Ways To Take Care Of Yourself When You Feel Like The World Is Collapsing

Forget pedicures and bubble baths. When you think of self-care, do you immediately think of spa treatments, Netflix, bottles of rosé, and Donna and Tom’s ‘Treat Yo Self Day‘ on Parks and Recreation?...

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How To Stop Being Toxic In Your Own Life

Toxicity lies in excusing your own worst behavior. I’ll be the first to admit that I’ve been a participant in some toxic behaviors that have hurt myself and the people around me. By nature, I tend to...

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If You’re Feeling Ugly, Read This

I’m at my most vulnerable as I address the toxic comments I get online as a woman.  I’m no stranger to criticism. I’ve lived my life online for over ten years now so I can handle feedback if it’s...

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I Wanted A Therapist, Not A Matchmaker

My social worker tried to set me up on a blind date. I’d been in a coed therapy group for a year and a half when the leader, an experienced licensed clinical social worker, tried to set me up on a...

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I’m Done Being The Perfect Older Sister

Older sisters are stereotypically smart, boring, and successful.  From Jane Bennet in Pride and Prejudice to Katniss Everdeen in The Hunger Games, older sisters are stereotypically smart, boring, and...

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How To Have More Assertive Conversations As An Introvert

Making decisions isn’t one of my strengths. My default social response has always been to ‘go with the flow’. Laidback and easygoing are descriptors that repeatedly crop up in my performance reviews...

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He Doesn’t Value You? Do This

This might be hard to hear… I’ve been where you’ve been. After spending years on the dating scene falling for guys who didn’t appreciate my worth, I decided enough was enough. I would develop really...

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